Supernatural is fiction; fanfiction is self-described as fiction; so why are some confusing their fantasies with reality?

The amount of hate and vitriol that is slung at the wives of our two main cast – Genevieve Cortese Padalecki and Danneel Ackles – is not only upsetting but uncalled for and frankly, unacceptable.

If you respect Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles, which I believe as fans of the Show we all do, you need to respect their relationships and their chosen mates. If you want to fantasize about whatever you want to fantasize about, have at it – but Jared and Jensen chose their wives; they chose to have children with them, and you need to respect that choice.

I’m not going to provide examples of the horribleness that exists out there against these two fine ladies, because I don’t want to promote such hate or give any more eyes to those that spout it; be assured though, it exists.

It’s time that we as a fandom looked at ourselves, once again, and decided whether or not we are engaging in behaviour that could rightly be called bullying, and in some cases, honestly, could be called harassment.

I don’t care who you ship together, character or actor – but be a human being and give Danneel and Gen the respect as fellow human beings that they deserve.

I recently wrote an article on the definition of bullying. I feel like one part bears repeating – just because someone is famous, it doesn’t mean you have the right to tear them down. It doesn’t give you the right to name call, to attack their personality or attack their relationships. Absolutely NOTHING gives you the right to hurt someone else.

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Gen and Danneel are people in their own right; wonderful people, actually. We all know that Gen was on Supernatural (Ruby), but she was also in Wildfire, from 2005 to 2008. In addition, Gen has been a stalwart supporter for Stronger than Storms, the recent charity raising money for the 2017 hurricanes. Danneel was of course in 10 Inch Hero, during which she and Jensen fell in love, but also in One Tree Hill. Again, Danneel and Jensen, in collaboration with The Family Business, have supported Stronger than Storms as well.

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My point: These are real-life human beings you are slinging mud at. I had the utter delight of meeting Danneel at the convention in New Orleans, recently – and she is a delight! Bright, bubbly and smiley, and very, very kind.

Danneel and Gen are human. They have feelings – they can be hurt. As I’ve said before, there is entirely too much hate in this fandom lately. It needs to stop.

Of course, there is more to this issue than meets the eye. There are fans that hate on Jared, because they want Destiel to be true; there are fans that hate on Misha, because they feel his character shouldn’t be in the show. There are even people who sling hate at Jensen, because they think he’s homophobic.

For people who purport to be “fans” of the Show, we sure as heck don’t seem to show it very well. We take to Twitter, to Tumblr, and derive great pleasure over raking the cast over the coals. We take every single misstep that Jared, Jensen, and Misha make, and blow it out of proportion; we read into every single Tweet, every single sound bite, and discuss them at length until we finally end up with a conclusion that is so far beyond the original intention that it’s unrecognizable. Sometimes a horse is just a horse, people, not a zebra.

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Look at the facts. Supernatural is the little show that could … we are currently in our 13th season, we’ve survived the dreaded wastelands of Friday nights, multiple apocalypses, changes in showrunners, and numerous other things. Why? Because of us, the fans. We watch. We enjoy. We discuss. But this hate – towards everyone in particular – is sickening to watch. I stand true in my dedication to the Show, pretty much nothing can turn me off from it, but I do know of people that don’t want to watch anymore just because of the petty arguments and hate that surround the fandom.

We’re a family. Act like one. Yes, we bicker, we argue, but the environment the #SPNfamily is in right now? It’s a mighty dysfunctional family, and I think we need to step back and re-evaluate our priorities. And No. 1 should always be to enjoy this show that so many dedicate time, blood, sweat, and tears to. As with all dysfunctional families, we can come back together and unite to help spread the positive messages that Supernatural fills us with.

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  1. Well said. Love their characters, love the actors, or go away. 100% support for J2 and their beautiful families right here. I hope they ignore the haters like I do.

  2. This was not directed at any specific fan of supernatural this was directed to all to spread awareness of the people who are like this. I’ve read and seen many people who dont like certain characters and actors from the show and I’m only in one or two online groups that love this show and the people. This person was sending it out to the entire fans of this show saying we are all in this together how are you taking this to a personal level and being offended?

  3. Don’t put me in your we! The vast amount of f@bs I’ve net over the last 10 years support the “ boys “ life partners and choices. PleSe don’t stir up hate where it doesn’t exist!

  4. I became a fan of Danneel after watching her in One Tree Hill, also got the movies The Roommate and The Back-Up Plan for her. Also, of course, have Ten Inch Hero, think she’s incredibly beautiful, amazingly talented and a superb wife and mother. I adored Genevieve from the first time I watched the pilot of Wildfire, watched all four years, and when I heard she was cast on Supernatural, literally screamed from being so excited. At that time, I even reached out to the fandom and asked them to be kind to her, as she’s hard-working, crazy talented, and just a kind-hearted person and doesn’t deserve the ill will the fandom was known for aiming at female characters. It both utterly baffles me and breaks my heart the way the fandom can react to these two. Danneel had twins, Jensen was supposed to go to a con maybe a day or two later, he said, maybe I shouldn’t go, Her response: “Yes, you will.” She did that, for us. These women spend so much time away from their husbands, taking care of their children, and supporting our show by supporting them. They are incredibly strong, understanding and kind and deserve nothing but our love and appreciation. If I ever am lucky enough to have the opportunity to meet these outstanding women, that is what I will them…that and thank you.
    It also breaks my heart to think that anyone would sling hate at Jensen, Jared or Misha. For all the wonderful things they’ve tried to do for our fandom and for everyone, those people should be ashamed of themselves. When the world is already filled with hate, anger, fear and spite, why do people feel the need to put even more into it?

  5. Bravo. One Million % agree. Will be sharing this in my FB SPN groups I admin and own, Tumblr and Twitter.
    I love and Support J2M and Family. All the cast deserve our respect. <3

  6. Thank you! This really needed to be said! This is half the reason why I never joined a fandom before and why I’m almost ashamed sometimes to call myself a “fan” of Supernatural because I in no way want to be associated with those that do this to their wives or them! Bravo!!

  7. These actors have the support of wife and family, they bring them the strength they need, by their roles in program for mental health and other organization they prove that they are people with heart, but they are actors to make us dreams, laugh.. They are humans being who deserve their privacy. There is no need to criticize or dragging in the mud their family, just enjoy the show and leave actors alone, I am part of a fandom where when people wrote something negative they are out, but that show has help a lot of people who has some history of depression or anxiety. Stop criticizing and judging. Leave people alone.

  8. People should leave their wives alone. There wives aren’t doing anything wrong. It wrong slinging mud at two innocent people. Wake up Supernatural is just fiction. Some fans are jealous because this two ladies has got what jealous fans hasn’t got or what fans want. If Jared and Jensen are happy with their relationships and with their partners. Good on them. Leave their relationships alone.

  9. Thank you for this. I totally agree. I run a Wincest/J2 fan group on FB but I do not allow my members to hate on any other ship, actor, member, or spouse. So many people do have their pet peeves with certain aspects and I let them know that the show is about love, family, and acceptance. As such we too should also be about love, family, and acceptance.


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